Sunday, December 28, 2008

Wait, one more thing

What does a 2-year-old wear to a funeral? Black dress with white turtleneck and tights and black shoes sound okay? I seem to remember my mother used to think it was inappropriate for children to wear black to funerals, so when I attended funerals (even in high school) I used to wear muted colors but not black. But my husband's family is old school working-class Italian Catholic, so I'm thinking super traditional might be the way to go here. Thoughts?


Blogger OneTiredEma said...

Oh, wow, I don't know. I'm thinking blending in with the crowd is probably best. If you have a black dress I wouldn't hestitate to put her in it, but I wouldn't go out and buy one especially.

I try to not wear black to Jewish funerals, but that is my own craziness (black to a funeral *not* a Jewish cultural thing, therefore I am really with the grain instead of against it).

So sorry you are having to think about this; please don't worry!

12:32 PM  
Blogger sara said...

I think whatever you want her to wear is one should critic what she wears. I wouldn't worry too much :-)

8:28 PM  
Blogger Rachel Inbar said...

Like OneTiredEma, I'd go with things that blend in, if she goes to the funeral.

When my grandmother died, my parents chose not to take us (not sure why, I was 5-1/2 at the time and completely understood what had happened). I think that can also be an option, if there is someone who could care for her.

4:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry you're facing a funeral.

I wouldn't worry too much about what BG wears. At my grandpa's funeral recently I wore black pants and a bright pink top. TBB didn't go (stayed home with grandad), I can't remember what TTG wore, and my 1 year old nephew was there, I think in green.

Was there a favourite outfit or colour that your MIL liked to see BG in? If so I'd go with that.

4:32 AM  
Blogger Eva said...

I had a family member die when Nora was under one, so I didn't take her. I'm not sure if I would take her now but that's as much because I cry like crazy at funerals. I think the outfit sounds fine. I hope no one cares either way. I'm so sorry you have to worry about this.

10:16 AM  
Blogger shanna said...

Jewish, so this whole "black to a funeral" concept is a little foreign to me, but I'd say anything muted and not-jeans is okay.

1:14 PM  
Blogger kbreints said...

I am sorry to hear that things have not gotten any better.... ((hugs)) to you and your family,

...and I am sure that no matter waht bat girl wears she will be let into the funeral ;)

9:39 AM  
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