Wednesday, December 08, 2010

At a loss

One of my dearest friends, who happens to live literally on the other side of the planet, got pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF and one miscarriage. The pregnancy has been plagued by complications--hematoma, vanishing twin, placenta previa, preterm contractions, culminating in (as of about a week and a half ago, at just past 29 weeks) total hospital bedrest. I talked to her last week and she was bored silly but optimistic and happy, making jokes about bedpans, enjoying feeling the baby kick, and looking forward to hopefully keeping the baby in until 35 weeks.

You can see where this is going, can't you?

Today I got an email from her husband, saying simply that she had delivered a boy, 10 weeks early, and that their son had multiple fatal birth defects, most likely due to a trisomy. (They hadn't had an amnio, but a level 2 ultrasound at 25 weeks had shown no major abnormalities.) He is expected to live perhaps a few months at most, but more likely a matter of days.

I just...I don't know what to say.

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9 Comments:

Anonymous Jillian said...

Oh man, I'm so sorry.

9:57 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

Oh so sorry, give my friend my condolences.

11:26 PM  
Anonymous Antropologa said...

How heartbreaking.

2:30 AM  
Blogger Jody said...

Oh no. No no no no no.

I am so sorry.

10:40 AM  
Blogger caramama said...

I'm so sorry. That is just tragic.

3:47 PM  
Blogger Thalia said...

That is just a very very very sad story. Please tell your friend we are all thinking of her, her son and her husband.

4:57 PM  
Blogger shanna said...

Fuck you, Universe.

7:57 PM  
Blogger Yo-yo Mama said...

Oh god...what does one say?? How many times do we say we're sorry...so sorry.

9:57 PM  
Blogger K77 said...

Oh what sad news :(

7:04 AM  

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